Tammi Menendez

Some Lesser Known Facts About Tammi Menendez

• Tammi Menendez began writing letters to Erik while she was married to Chuck Saccoman, who allowed her to communicate with Erik.

• Erik Menendez said that when he received Tammi’s letter, he felt a connection and set it aside to reply to her. Their friendship grew slowly.

• After Tammi’s husband died in 1996, she turned to Erik for comfort, and their relationship became romantic. They met in person at Folsom State Prison in 1997, which Erik called one of the best moments of his life.

  

• The couple got married in 1999 at Sacramento State Prison, and Erik became a stepfather to Tammi’s daughter, Talia. Erik called Tammi his “lifesaver,” as her love helped him choose to keep going.

• Tammi Menendez believed Erik was a good person, saying she knew his soul and understood what led to the killing.

• In a 2005 media interview, Tammi said her relationship with Erik was something she had dreamed about and called it special.

• She has published a book titled ‘They Said We’d Never Make It – My Life with Erik Menéndez,’ which Erik helped edit.

  

• Tammi Menendez and her daughter would visit Erik every weekend, and her daughter called him her ‘Earth Dad.’

  

• Erik said that Tammi helped him cope with his life sentence, describing her as his emotional support during tough times.

• California law prevents life-sentenced inmates from having conjugal visits, so Erik and Tammi’s marriage did not involve sex.

• Once, in a media conversation, Tammi Menendez said not having sex was hard, but her emotional connection with Erik mattered more. She mentioned that her family did not understand their relationship.

  

• In 2024, according to Tammi Menendez, Erik disapproved of the Netflix drama ‘Monsters: The Lyle and Erik Menendez Story,’ a series that explored the Menendez brothers’ case.

  

• Tammi Menendez often shares messages from Erik Menendez on social media.